ANSWER BY DR RACHNA K SINGH:
Thank you for writing to us.
I’m sorry for this situation that you’re in, I understand that the last couple of years have been tough. Furthermore, it seems like the pandemic has made it worse for you and your family. A lot of people are experiencing heightened turbulences in their relationships during this time, but I’m glad you realise how this could have an impact on your child and hence are looking for an emotionally stable environment for him to grow up in. From what you’ve shared, I also understand why you may be worried about him emulating the same bitter behaviour he’s observing. It is natural to feel what you are feeling right now, given the difficult predicament you’re in.
Firstly, I would recommend that your son receives personal attention from both parents. It may be a good idea to communicate and have a personal bond with your child. You must also make sure neither you nor your spouse bad mouths each other to your child and your fights should take place away from him. If possible, the three of you could also play board games or activities that don’t involve too much talking but help feel like a family unit. That being said, five years is a long time for disturbances to occur. I recommend you seek therapy or reach out to a counsellor for professional guidance to enhance your relationships. Good luck!
Hope this helps
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Dr. Rachna Khanna Singh
HOD – Holistic Medicine, Artemis Hospital, Gurgaon
Relationship, Lifestyle & Stress Management Expert
Director – The Mind & Wellness Studio, New Delhi
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